Let’s be honest: we’ve all had that moment – be it a birthday, anniversary or just the second Saturday of the month – where we think, “We should probably be doing it with our partner tonight.” In other words, it’s as spontaneous as a tax return. This is by no means a reflection of your relationship, as time goes by, the sexual heat tends to dissipate. You learn that you don’t have to rattle the rafters like you did in the beginning, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t add a dash of freshness every now and then. Here are four ways to make it happen.
1. Turn back the clock
Remember in the early days of your relationship when you didn’t want her to think you were just about getting into her Victoria’s Secret? Heaven forbid. Remember when you were satisfied with proper kissing and touching through layers of clothing because that’s all that was gonna happen? It’s time to resurrect that game. Indulge in the preamble of foreplay like it’s the main course and don’t take things any further. I know it’s a big ask but eventually she’ll take things to the next level out of sheer titillation and the level after that will be easier to achieve. You know what I’m saying.
2. Talk drty
There are myriad ways you can communicate with your partner throughout the day and there are few more powerfully erotic techniques than planting a thought of carnal delights to come. Send her a flirty text along the lines of – “Can’t wait till we’re alone together tonight” or “Been thinking about your body all day”. This sets the scene and builds anticipation. Don’t make it too dirty and for God’s sake be sure you’re sending it to the right person.
3. Location, location, location
Hotel room sex is always that little bit dirtier. Fact. Arrange for someone to look after the kids for a night, pack a bag for both of you and arrive at her office at COB to whisk her away for an evening of romance. Dinner, drinks and a night in a five star sin den. That shit will never get old.
4. Knee to know
The back of the knee is one of the most underrated pleasure centres on a woman’s body. Get her to lie on her stomach and stroke this area with tongue or fingertips and she will shiver like a bikini model in Siberia.